Hi All -
Last week a member of my immediate family was diagnosed with a serious medical condition that will require considerable attention on my part for the forseeable future ... and possibly beyond. As I learned during the months leading up to my mother's death this past July and in the two months after as well, I do not function to maximal advantage on message boards in such circumstances. (Those of you who saw how weird and abrasive some of my postings were during that period realize that to say I wasn't functioning to maximal advantage might be the understatement of all time!) Additionally, an upcoming job change will leave me less free time and flexibility than I have had over the past four years with my current job, but the new position has much more security, which is extremely important in the current economic climate ... especially in view of the paragraph above. Anyway, I think it fair to say that what sets this message board apart from the others is largely the way I run it - with daily active involvement, challenging cognitive distortions by asking for reality-based support for seemingly-obvious statements, and using my experience and knowledge of the literature to try to separate conclusions based on anecdote from conclusions based on legitimate scientific data. And as I see it, without that active daily involvement on my part there is little to separate this board from two other excellent moderated on-line interactive resources - The Tinnitus Support Message Board and The Hyperacusis Network Message Board. Please consider familiarizing yourselves with either or both of those sites if you have not done so already. I will be posting on those boards on occasion as time and circumstances allow; however, the Tinnitus and Hyperacusis Communty Board will permanently close for posting within the next couple of weeks. Thanksgiving approaches. We all have much to be thankful for. And I am very thankful for having had the opportunity to participate here with all of you over the past ten months. You have made a difference in my life, and I hope that I have made a difference in yours. Kind regards - smn PS - Please keep a good thought for my family.
I'm so sorry to hear about the illness in your immediate family. Will keep you and them in our prayers. Congratulations on the job, I think. However, you closing and leaving this board leaves me with great sadness. It was only here that I finally began to get a handle on this tinnitus and found life again worth living. I can not thank you enough and although I rarely look at any other boards I guess I will from time to time. However, they do not compare in any way with the expertise on this board and there's just too much "junk" to sift through. So I think I will close this chapter of regular Internet activity on any tinnitus board when you close this one down. If I get bored I may take a look but I'm sure I will be disappointed. My very best to you, my thanks for this board, and my eternal thanks for the time and effort you have on this board and personally taken the time to help me get my life back. It may not be the correct thing to do but there are several that I have their personal emails. If there are others who would like to continue sharing I have no problem in publishing mine on this site and would enjoy hearing from anyone from time to time who have benefited as much as I have. Again, thank you. CPW Roger Kempfer, CRC firstname.lastname@example.org
That's a bummer, smn. It always sucks when someone has a serious medical condition, and I hope for the best possible outcome. I have learned a great deal from you, and I am sure others have, too.
I'm sorry to hear about your situation, however congrats on the new job! I just wanted to say thank you for everything, theres nothing i can say that CPW hasn't said already! Thank you for helping me more then any other single individual has in this area. You will be missed, take care Dr. N.
Hi Dr. Nagler,
I am so very sorry to hear of your family illness my thoughts and prayers for you and all your family. I imagine that this decision to close this board hasn't come easy. I am sure you have tried to think possibly of any way in which you can divide yourself into small bits to carry on giving all us faceless people the benefit of your wonderful knowledge and insight. There often comes a time in our lives where we have to stop, take stock and realise what are the most important things. I'm sure you have made the right decision . I would however just like to say a very big THANK YOU. I can honestly say that without you and this board I don't think I would have got so far, so quick. Take care and best wishes in your new job.
Dr. Nagler-I received your email but can't send emails as of now.
I am sorry for this development, but family first! We WILL get together for lunch soon, and I'M BUYING! cb
Our prayers for your family and our heartfelt thanks for providing a place of encouragement and enlightenment these past months.
All the best, Tman
Hi Dr Nagler,
I am so sorry to hear of your family's illness. They will be in my prayers. I am too saddened being one of the newest members of this board and for such a short time. Your wisdom and expertise will be greatly missed. Maggie
Peach says- I have learned a great deal from you, and I am sure others have, too. I am one of those that has learned alot. And I thank you greatly. I am sorry to hear of what you and your family must be going through. And I am also sorry to hear this board will be closing. Thank you for the time you have given to helping those of us who have found ourselves with some hearing challenges that can be quite challenging, to say the least, at times. Wishing better and brighter days- to you and your family, aQuieterBreeze
So sorry to hear about the illness in your family. Hope everything will work out well at the end, whenever the end might be.
And so sorry for all of us to be left without the board. Will the board still remain open for viewing (there's some postings and references I wish to be able to read again)? Or will it totally close down? Words are not enough to express my gratitude to you and the time you've spent answering questions. Thank you to everybody else as well, especially to Dr Chip and for his time trying to help me. I've learnt so much and know more than my doctor now!!! Congratulations for the new job and good luck for everything else. Martine.
Over the last few months - when things get rough - I keep reminding myself that you have habituated loud, intrusive tinnitus. I'm not there yet but it is because of this Board and the 'Words of Wisdom' contributed by yourself and others that I am still hopeful.
I'm just so sorry that you seem to be experiencing more than your fair share of family illness and bereavement. Hope the new job works out for you. Mura
Hello Dr Nagler,
I am so sorry to hear about your most recent challenges. I hope everything works out for the best and with your new job. Looking back at the onset of my t, which anytime would be an inopportune time but fortunately an opportune one because your site was only 3 months old when I discovered it. I guess you can say you and the rest of the fine people literally cradled me with support and optimism while giving me an outpouring to information for improvement. The give and take between members was an education in itself in learning about our shared symptoms, personalities, temperaments, patience, kindness, eloquence, intelligence and courage. The information here is a time capsule of thoughts and feelings about our journeys and hope somehow it can be preserved for future reference. Some of us are further along on this journey than others. Some lose their way and ask for another life line to get back on track. The other sites will do this but it is your clinical and compassionate focus that will be missed.
All the best, Dr. Nagler.
Your selfless generosity and deep knowledge have made the difference to me between being handicapped by tinnitus and being able to swat it away effortlessly as one would some annoying, tiny insect. I know others feel that way, too. Many, many others. We all wish you well in your new endeavors and through this difficult time. And thanks again for everything. Rob in Denver
Just in case for some reason the Words of Wisdom disappears sometime in the future I have just printed all 15 pages of it. Tomorrow I will take it to Office Max and have them copy all of it on 60 pound paper and have it bound. There is just too much good information to loose and there might be times that I need to return to them. It would be much better than refilling any other prescription I have ever known. I have already expressed my sadness for this board going away and my sympathy for Dr. Nagler's family medical problems. But his Words of Wisdom and those who have contributed to them, even the lowly one from me, need to be preserved. Some of you might like to print them for future reference and reassurance. (It's as close to sad as I could find on the list) CPW
Thanks much to all for the kind and supportive words. I appreciate it.
Regarding this site - it will be closed for posting beginning next week, but all of the threads will remain accessible for reading. smn
You mentioned the board will close for posting beginning next week- Though I know you must have lots of things on your mind, The latter part of the week may allow a little time for some closing thoughts, and if you have an idea when next week, this board will close - please let us know, as that would be appreciated. I hope the site will retain all it's current search features as well, at least for awhile- And I also wonder if we will be able to login, and communicate with each other via pm for awhile, or will the ability to do that also close up, at the same time the board closes for posting? CPW- I think you have a good idea about saving off what we wish to keep. And anyone who has ever had a hard drive fail, knows the value of a backup of some sort. Though sometimes by the time we realize we did not save something we wished to keep- it can be too late. And there is alot of it here, In words of wisdom, and also in other threads. DrNagler- I do not think I am alone when I say- if you ever decide to reopen this board, please let us know. Your time and help has been greatly appreciated. As has the time, knowledge, and kindness others have dedicated to this site as well. With many thanks for your time, aQuieterBreeze
You mentioned the board will close for posting beginning next week- Though I know you must have lots of things on your mind, The latter part of the week may allow a little time for some closing thoughts, and if you have an idea when next week, this board will close - please let us know, as that would be appreciated. ........... OK, the end of the week. December 5. ............ I hope the site will retain all it's current search features as well, at least for awhile- ............. The search feature will remain active. ............. And I also wonder if we will be able to login, and communicate with each other via pm for awhile, or will the ability to do that also close up, at the same time the board closes for posting? ................ The PM and e-mail features will not be accessible after December 5. smn
Sad to hear that this board is closing and sorry to hear about the illness in your immediate family member Dr. Nagler. Hope all is well.
This site has been a beacon of hope and light for many many T sufferers, me included. I will always remember the positives I learn here from Dr. Nagler and others. All the best to every one.
Thank you for your answers and for that little bit of extra time, (you mentioned the board will close Dec. 5) in case some have some closing thoughts to post. The time and dedication you and others have put into this board - has been greatly appreciated. Thank you. Tpeace- You mention- I will always remember the positives I learn here from Dr. Nagler and others. That is a good way to look at things!
I will be available to help as necessary by email. cb